Firstly, if you are reading this due to the loss of your special friend my heart goes out to you. I believe pet-friends, regardless of their species or size, are pieces of heaven. They have a special ability to show us love, and bring out the love within us. They become part of who we are and vice versa. It’s a match made in heaven.
I am currently owned by two-hand tamed lovebirds, Paddington and Yogi, and two budgies, Moe and Captain Jack Sparrow. I’m not sure how it happened but over the last five years I’ve become a “crazy bird lady.” I love these little dudes so much I can’t even describe it.
I have experienced both kindness and harshness when dealing with the loss of my feathered kids (FIDS). Acts of kindness are like a soothing balm for the soul, whilst judgment can be like a splinter in an already wounded heart. I GET IT!! It hurts to lose your pet-friend. You can feel like you’re lost in the middle of the ocean. The loss, combined with the fact that many people label your heartbreak as “silly” or an “over-reaction” can lead to isolation and guilt, further compounding your grief.
I am a trauma-informed therapist and have done several courses with the Blue Knot Foundation. I also have degrees in Behavioural Science and Sociology. I currently work part-time as a trauma therapist with adults who were abused in institutions as children, and I also counsel adults and children who are victims of many serious types of crimes.
As well as my professional skill set and experience, I believe the most important assistance I can offer you is empathy, understanding, kindness and acceptance. I sincerely believe, “People don’t care how much you know unless they know how much you care.”